Question 1

What's the difference between your coaching and sex therapy?

Accepted Answer

I'm a coach and not a psychotherapist. While therapy delves into past experiences, exploring reasons for behaviors and feelings, coaching is focused much more on setting goals and removing obstacles. There are many reasons why someone might choose a coach instead of a sex therapist. They might already have a therapist, and not keen on having another. They might want to augment current therapy with more detailed sex information (most therapists don't have extensive knowledge of human sexuality). A person might want something short-term, focused on specific solutions. Finally, some of my clients find hope knowing that I solved my own sex problems practicing what I preach. If you're not sure if coaching or sex therapy is right for you, I suggest you set up a free Discovery Call so we can discuss it!

Question 2

What does coaching involve?

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Coaching is done virtually, so you may feel safe in a space of your choosing. During a session, we will chat about what's been going on as well as your goals going forward and obstacles you're facing. We'll end each session talking about solutions you might try. I'll also put session notes in a private Google folder, so you'll have them to refer to, and we can track your progress together!

Question 3

I have a history of trauma. Is it OK for me to work with you?

Accepted Answer

For the past 2 decades, I've worked with scores of trauma survivors, and I am one myself. It's important to know that my course will not delve into your past trauma. You will not be sharing details of traumatic events, or anything you wish to keep private. Many of my clients/students are survivors. That said, you really do need to feel ready to move forward sexually. Feeling ready often happens after someone has already done significant emotional and psychological healing. If you're not sure, please schedule a 30 min. call with me by emailing

Question 4

Will you ask me to take my clothes off?

Accepted Answer

Absolutely not! As Certified Holistic Sex Educator, I am bound by a strict code of ethics that forbids sexual exchanges with clients. Though we will talk about your sex experiences, we will do so in a respectful, educational way. Also, you will always be in charge of how much, or how little, you wish to share.

Question 5

My situation is really complicated. How do I know your coaching will work for me?

Accepted Answer

We are all complicated in our own way, but I know what you mean! I felt that way too about my own life and the many obstacles I faced before I began my sexual healing. Here's what's important to know: the framework I provide helps you identify a goal, identify obstacle(s), and successfully navigate these obstacles for a lifetime of sensual development. Many times obstacles masquerade as hopeless complications, but they are really challenges that can be broken down and overcome! In this course, you'll also assert your new sexual self through communication skills and sustainable, sexy habits. If you feel that you might benefit from this kind of coaching model, then don't worry about complications! That said, if you are having trouble implementing the strategies I teach—because of past history, for instance—then, by all means, take advantage of my money-back guarantee (up to 14 days I'll give a refund if you haven't redeemed a private session). I can also help you find a sex therapist, who might be a better fit.

Question 6

Can I do coaching if I'm not in a relationship?

Accepted Answer

Absolutely! Approximately half the people I work with begin our journey while not in relationship. Coaching is designed for you to connect more fully, and authentically, with your own desire, pleasure, and sensual potential. Whether or not you're in a relationship, you will begin your journey there. Depending on your situation, you might also explore techniques to use with partners. You can experiment with these techniques if you're dating, or store this knowledge for future erotic adventures. If you're already in a relationship and would like to involve your partner, I also work with couples!

Question 7

What if I'm a hopeless case?

Accepted Answer

I hear you! I felt that way too about my own life and obstacles before I began my sexual healing. Here's what's important to know: the framework and tools I provide help you better understand sexual desire and pleasure. They also inspire you to redesign sex so that it authentically excites you. Too many times people think they have low libido when they just don't know that the way they feel is normal, and also that there are ways to customize erotic experiences so that they are truly exciting.

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